Addicts and Holidays 11/22

Holidays can be quite a tricky thing for some addicts in recovery to navigate.

While in active addiction – a holiday, a birthday, a cookout, a wedding, a parade you name it – was a great excuse to drink and use more.

I always needed to get a little extra twisted before the event began. Then somehow I managed to get stupidly wasted during the event and always ended up embarrassing myself in some way shape or form.

Today I look forward to most holidays, but it was not always the case. They tended to bring back shameful and guilty feelings.

These are a few things that helped me especially in my early recovery regarding holidays:

First the reminder that it is only ONE DAY. Even though the media and shopping centers celebrate certain holidays for months at a time, the holiday itself is one 24 hour day.

Next I was taught to have an out. If you are going somewhere bring your own vehicle and a pocket full of reasons why you need to leave when you feel it is time.

Lastly, I learned to not be so hard on myself or to expect to much. I learned that saying the serenity prayer in the bathroom actually helps!

I believe that anytime an addict makes it through an uncomfortable situation without picking up IS A MIRACLE.

Published by gracefuladdict

I am a true addict living my life one day at a time in recovery. I have been substance free -meaning NO drugs or alcohol since 5/23/10. My intention is to share my experiences daily in the hopes to free others from the fears of being who they truly are. My wish is to bravely tell my truth so others can tell theirs as well. I want to be free of self hatred and doubt. I want to live a life of joy, kindness, love and grace. Thank you!

11 thoughts on “Addicts and Holidays 11/22

  1. I find that not getting together with family is a really good idea. I used to be all upset that I wasn’t invited to family functions … now that I am invited, I gracefully say no & stay home. It just works out better.

    For Thanksgiving, I’ll be having my son home on leave from the Army … he’s bringing his new girlfriend. I haven’t seen him in almost a year & I can’t wait to see him & meet her. He says we have a lot in common.

    For me, it’s not the uncomfortable situations that I have to worry about. It’s when I’m feeling really good, when I want to PAR-TAY! But like all addicts, I can always come up with a reason to use. I’m feeling good, I’m feeling bad, I’m feeling whateverthefuck.

    Thanks for posting. This blog is really helping me.

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    1. Thank you for sharing too ❤️ that’s excellent news about your son!
      And I agree – all addicts can find any excuse – holidays mixed with a splash of family is a perfect storm!
      Enjoy your holiday and again thank you for sharing ❤️

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  2. About “happy.” I see you’ve read “Heartbeat” not really a happy piece, but not a rant, and you saw at least episode 1 of “Puppet Man.” No indication you read episodes 2 through 6. The only “Happy” piece that comes to mind is this one https://spwilcenwrites.wordpress.com/2020/12/24/late-in-from-tulsa-december-25-2020/ . There may be odd pieces in the blog archive. Any other “happy” works were all withdrawn, and I’ve no present intention of putting them back. Now. I’m off to handle the next interruption. Good fortune to you.

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  3. Holidays are hard on most (I blame Norman Rockwell for giving us the wrong idea about what a real family gathering looks like) and boy, family sure know how to push buttons! Being an addict must throw another wrench into the mix. I like the tip of keeping the Serenity Prayer close to one’s heart! ❤

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    1. Yes ! those perfect family Norman Rockwell pictures never portrayed how everyone was REALLY feeling haha! Love the serenity prayer 🙏 so many times I hid in the bathroom- and it was instantly like taking a breathe and allowed me to proceed back into whatever hellish situation I excused myself from! Happy holidays lol 💜❤️💜

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