Blame…don’t bother 12/28

The concept of blame, or giving credit to another for hurting me, betraying me or lying to me has been transforming in my heart these days.

As an addict in recovery I am constantly evolving and changing. I find at different points in my recovery I become uncomfortable and I need to address the roots and causes so I can find relief.

My relief has to come from spiritual guidance now as opposed to drugs and booze.

Blame is no longer something that is acceptable in my heart and soul.

I have come to this comforting understanding. I have had experiences with people, some that may have not felt good, some that have been down right painful. But blame? No….blame does nothing for my soul.

If I was able to give the credit for all of the pain to someone then “they” would have to have all the credit in being able to heal that pain as well. And that is simply not true.

“I am the captain of my soul” – Invictus

Even if the person who “wronged” me came and apologized a million times, they are not capable of fixing me. I am the one, along with god, spirit and grace that will heal those wounds.

Today is a new day with new understanding. Thank you god.

Published by gracefuladdict

I am a true addict living my life one day at a time in recovery. I have been substance free -meaning NO drugs or alcohol since 5/23/10. My intention is to share my experiences daily in the hopes to free others from the fears of being who they truly are. My wish is to bravely tell my truth so others can tell theirs as well. I want to be free of self hatred and doubt. I want to live a life of joy, kindness, love and grace. Thank you!

8 thoughts on “Blame…don’t bother 12/28

  1. Lot of wisdom & food for thought here Danielle and some truth as well. 😁🤔👍 Especially if people are to blame for all your hurt, then they are responsible for healing you aswell. And that’s simply not possible!

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  2. Dear lady, you have allowed that love inside, the one so blocked for so long that had blinded your journey…and now understanding that only a blind person can truly appreciate that journey when finally given some light to see exactly what they have achieved. A very beautiful and light filled post ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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      1. Much kinder, simply because you now understand the truth AND because of that can now love you. Before, you believed all that was wrong, was you. The lie kept you focused on the surface world but when you see underneath you can finally see its foundations are false…and begin to rebuild, begin to create, all in truth which is love, and in that very action you are loving you ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
        I must explain something here…when you are in a relationship, you will argue, point the finger, have it pointed at you and on and on it goes. It is uncomfortable, angry, negative and just about every other bad thing you can think of. But sometimes you’ve just had enough, you can’t do this any more and you stop, you finally just let it all go and quietly sit down and calmly speak to your partner. You open, really open and speak from that truth inside and lay it all out in how you truly feel, how it affects you. And suddenly you realize it is such a let go, a release of all that is held and blocked inside you and you truly see you for the first time. Not the mask wearing, hiding of heart person who fought and tried to bury the other person in accusations…but something incredible, something truthful, something loving, something rarely touched, something no longer built on fear. Before you were afraid of losing them, losing you, losing everything. But now, in those quiet , open moments…the fear is gone…and replaced by a truth, a love rarely touched but in those moments knowing it is such a relief but not sure why. But on the day of your understanding of that lie (fear) underneath, you will finally reach that quiet moment constantly. Yes, you will have it raise its head but it will feel wrong now, it will be uncomfortable so you will let it go because it is no longer you. You do not NOT LOVE yourself anymore so it no longer fits so you release it, where before you thought it did fit so held it. In that understanding of your fear the difference in your heart is like night and day. Many, many years in the darkness, but with great importance. You needed to SEE conditional love (the blocking of your self love through fear) so in its release could SEE and appreciate unconditional love (your self love),…that release of the conditions bound in that lie ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋


  3. This is a deep and fair understanding of oneself and life circumstances. I couldn’t agree any better. It’s true that the healing we need comes right from within us and not from others. And that said, no need for blame games, actually no need at all.

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