“I was wrong” 11/22

At a recovery meeting Saturday night I stumbled upon a new useful nugget of information.

A man shared that he was taught to stop saying “I’m sorry” and instead say “I was wrong.”

I had never heard this before.

This put a different spin on it for me.

Once I entered into recovery and I put all of the substances down…I was left to discover who I am. The good the bad and the ugly!

I am human. Therefore in many cases I will be wrong. I will be wrong in the way I handle something or thought about something or someone.

The most important lesson that I keep learning is that it’s not a crime to be wrong. It is not even wrong to be wrong.

The awareness of being wrong brings about the opportunity to set things right within myself. To change.

Making amends is not just saying I am sorry or I was wrong. That is only the beginning.

The true amends comes when I change the behavior…so I will not keep hurting myself or others.

Published by gracefuladdict

I am a true addict living my life one day at a time in recovery. I have been substance free -meaning NO drugs or alcohol since 5/23/10. My intention is to share my experiences daily in the hopes to free others from the fears of being who they truly are. My wish is to bravely tell my truth so others can tell theirs as well. I want to be free of self hatred and doubt. I want to live a life of joy, kindness, love and grace. Thank you!

31 thoughts on ““I was wrong” 11/22

  1. It seems society has fallen into the trap of saying “I’m sorry” and assuming everything is now fine and dandy. It’s really easy(and lazy) to say I’m sorry whether you mean it or not, but exerting the effort to change one’s behavior and avoid doing whatever it was again is too much effort. It reminds me of when people thank someone for something and they say “No problem”. What happened to being able to say “You’re welcome”? Words and their meanings are so powerful yet we throw words around and never even stop to think about what we are REALLY saying! I like the “I’m wrong” idea! ❤ VK

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  2. I like this. I used to think that apologizing was asking the other person for forgiveness–giving them power to absolve me, to allow me to forgive myself. I have been in abusive situations where this “power” was used to manipulate me. But now I am seeing that it is important that I ask for forgiveness from God first and do what I need to do to forgive myself. That making amends is about mending the relationship. It takes courage to say “I was wrong” and to admit our humanity.

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    1. It puts the power back in our hands to heal – with gods grace and our willingness- it’s another ticket to the train ride of freedom!
      I love what you said about giving the other the power to absolve you…I used to feel the same way. It is great to break out of that thinking and discover where our real truth and power are…always within.
      Much love to you Sara – you are such a bright light ♥️♥️♥️

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  3. As it comes to recovery we keep our side clean. With our families, friends, circles, work. We stop doing things that harm others. We change. We make amends along the way if we really did wrong. It doesn’t mean we go through lives owing the entire universe for taking up space. We’re not martyers, or martyred. Strangers, acquaintances often and will do things we see, feel as wrong, to us. That’s just how the the rest of the world is and will be long after we’re gone. Enjoy the holidays.

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  4. After one of my life’s major, self imposed screw-ups, I too learned to dropped the “I’m sorry” s Danielle. Now, when I find myself wrong again (frustratingly often), I offer six cathartic words . . . ” I was wrong, please forgive me.” Honest, transparent confession without excuse heals.

    Be blessed lady!

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  5. Reblogged this on attis and commented:
    I wish you peace, courage and wisdom. I read you from the beginning, then not for a while. because I wasn’t here, and now I’m here in a different way… But you’ve changed a lot, as I can see, you’re more beautiful on the outside, mentally more balanced… No, you’re balanced. And on your way… God take care of you! And more importantly, you take care also of God , because he/she/it dreams bad things in us many times.

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    1. Thank you! It’s nice that you notice a change in me and expressed it❤️
      Thank you for coming back and for your kind words and wishes. If you want to share your first name or what I should call you that would be great! If not – that is quite fine too – have a great night friend ❤️🙏💜

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