The fire of desire 2/26

As an addict there is a behavior that I have in which a desire can turn into an obsession.

Simply meaning if I “want” something and I can’t have it right away I can easily obsess over it until I get it.

It started with drugs and alcohol but now that I am in recovery I can recognize this behavior in other areas of my life.

I heard a wonderful explanation of this from a Guru named Mooji. It brought instant peace and relief to me on this topic.

He says that the thing you desire is not really what you are seeking.

Lets say I wanted a new car – this one specific car and I became obsessed with it. I could not stop thinking about it…it took over my mind.

So then I finally get the car…and I feel so happy. I breathe the sigh of relief – I got the thing…the material object.

But Mooji explains it is not the thing (the car) that brought the relief.

The relief is from the freedom of the desire. I am now free from the obsession – the mind molesting thoughts about the thing. I am free.

So…it’s never about the thing…no matter what. It is always about the peace of mind that we are seeking. The relief from the mind.

This understanding has been very helpful when I catch myself obsessing over something.

Published by gracefuladdict

I am a true addict living my life one day at a time in recovery. I have been substance free -meaning NO drugs or alcohol since 5/23/10. My intention is to share my experiences daily in the hopes to free others from the fears of being who they truly are. My wish is to bravely tell my truth so others can tell theirs as well. I want to be free of self hatred and doubt. I want to live a life of joy, kindness, love and grace. Thank you!

30 thoughts on “The fire of desire 2/26

  1. We ever search for that need Danielle, be it physically or emotionally. But nothing will satisfy it until we understand what it truly is…our doubts of ourselves. And the mind will ever seek it, even trying to bypass its truth so we don’t have to face it. But the love that is us, wants us to break free of its shackles so ever guides us to understand it, take another step, dare another path…until one day it will open like a flower…and set us free. And in it understand that beauty we have found, is in fact because of those very steps. Great post dear lady, may that flower within you set you free and share the love you has found πŸ˜€β€οΈπŸ™πŸ½

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    1. Our minds are funny and can play lovely little games. Sending me on a wild goose chase. I still get caught up…but now I have the awareness that something is off…I can feel it in my gut – and it may take hours or even days to figure out – oh shit! Im being mean to myself again – and what you said is spot on – The doubts of self…but the uncomfortableness of it all pushes me back towards the love – the spirit -my soul – my eternal self. My breathe. Oh what fun ! ha ha!!

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  2. Yes. We are all seeking relationship with God and His perfect pure love at our deepest level. I learned this one recently in recovery also. We have that void in us we lustfully try to fill with everything else but only God can satisfy that deep down amd give deep peace and joy. You got it!πŸ˜ƒβ€οΈ

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  3. “Wanting” the car is like wanting a new toy in childhood. The “rush” is temporary. Another fix is needed soon. Freedom is in having modest needs and the ability to walk away without.


    1. I couldn’t agree more Dr Stein. And I associate the obsessive thoughts with my addict behavior – needing a fix – just to want another when I get it. “One is to many and a thousand is never enough” Being content in my own skin has been the true freedom that I have always been seeking.


  4. Fantastic insight, I think about this often. We create our entire world with our mind. Our paradigm and life experience shapes what is important and not important to us.


    1. YESSS! It is all individual. What I am fixed upon you might care less about…this is what is amazing. It’s all personal – but when we drop all of those thoughts and ideas – WE are all just the same source of energy. Our choice and free will is what to focus on. Thanks Lloyd!!

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  5. ‘Peace of mind’ always! I remember long ago in a workshop, we did an exercise where your partner repeats the question ‘What do you want?’ over and over until you get to the bottom desire. My answer ultimately was ‘peace of mind.’ It was an important revelation. πŸ’œ

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