Shhhhh 3/23

Do you ever hear what people are NOT saying?

I remember this happening a lot when I was a kid…and when I would say the truth of a matter I was somehow muffled…shushed or shooed away! Ha!

And then as an adult…I muffled and suppressed my own knowing with alcohol and pills.

I understand today even if I know something…I don’t always have to shine the light on it.

I am learning about others needs I guess.

I still believe that the truth and the roots of different subjects are the most freeing. And my heart wants everyone to have that freedom to be themselves.

But sometimes I just need to shut my mouth…and let others find their own way. It’s “their” journey…not mine after all.

And what I think I might know….might be right for me and not anyone else.

I always end up at the same place…I don’t really know ANYTHING! ha ha!

Published by gracefuladdict

I am a true addict living my life one day at a time in recovery. I have been substance free -meaning NO drugs or alcohol since 5/23/10. My intention is to share my experiences daily in the hopes to free others from the fears of being who they truly are. My wish is to bravely tell my truth so others can tell theirs as well. I want to be free of self hatred and doubt. I want to live a life of joy, kindness, love and grace. Thank you!

13 thoughts on “Shhhhh 3/23

  1. Hahaha Danielle, I SOOO RELATE. My toxic trait is my MOUTH. OMG the things that I say are sometimes appalling. You have such a good point where sometimes we learn more by listening and being watchful and aware of the many things that aren’t said out loud – but are still speaking out and wanting to be heard. Sending you lots of love xx

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  2. “I am learning about others’ needs I guess.” I would pose this as a set of questions. How much do others need of falsity or lack of knowledge vs. how much do they want? How much are they aware of their lack of self-awareness?

    And what happens when surrounded by people who do not want to hear what one has to say? A life of diplomacy and kindness is one thing; a life of silence is another.

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    1. I love these points Dr Stein. I’m learning to choose my battles wisely I suppose.
      When the student is ready philosophy applies in my life often…many people I encounter are not ready to hear things. Many people in life are the same way.
      You can’t force an experience or a lesson on anyone.
      However- my friend Bootsie always says it’s our job to provide the information- and what they do with it is up to them….🙏❤️


      1. Please understand, Danielle. I am not suggesting you force anything on anyone. I would say, however, that at some point, for a full life, we all need to find friends who are compatible with us and from whom we do not need or choose to hide from. Otherwise, we live in an unsatisfying state of secrecy.

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  3. Some of us in recovery look back. Not to search for blame or focus on the bad stuff. Out of curiosity maybe. Songwriters make their living doing it. Others don’t even want to know or care. As you posted recently the slate is wiped clean in recovery. We are re-born in a way. How much of our childhoods factor in to our new lives? We learned the old ways didn’t work. One of the biggest habits I had to let go of and I’m still working on it is to know why to everything. I got obsessed with knowing the reasons why things were the way they are. To show others how smart I am. I really liked telling others what their problem was. I once told someone who was born with a southern accent to lose it if he wanted to work as an actor in film, tv, theater. I was an employment counselor for decades. Did I do it to help or was I being superior (with my Canadian accent)? I’m learning there are no answers to why sometimes. To easy does it. It is what it is. Be well.

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