It clicked! 3/24

For years I have heard my friend Bootsie say “You can plan plans but you can’t plan the outcome.”

Well yesterday I heard a podcast given by a man named Michael Singer; he wrote the book The Untethered Soul.

He explained that our minds are constantly trying to plan the outcome of things due to our fears of “I am not ok.”

We are constantly reaching outside of ourselves for inside issues. We learn about this very thing in recovery.

The drugs and alcohol were my attempt to solve internal issues.

So yesterday I shut down the planning board in my brain…I gave them all the day off.

I took all outcomes out of my day. As soon as I started to plan an outcome…I caught it and forgot it. I am sure a few snuck by…but today is a new day.

What I gained from doing this…was the freedom of the day to unfold as it would.

It’s another form of surrender. Another form of trust. Another ego deflating action. Another act of humility by saying “I am grateful for the moment…and I need nothing more.”

Thank you for this moment…and I need nothing more.

Published by gracefuladdict

I am a true addict living my life one day at a time in recovery. I have been substance free -meaning NO drugs or alcohol since 5/23/10. My intention is to share my experiences daily in the hopes to free others from the fears of being who they truly are. My wish is to bravely tell my truth so others can tell theirs as well. I want to be free of self hatred and doubt. I want to live a life of joy, kindness, love and grace. Thank you!

27 thoughts on “It clicked! 3/24

  1. This will be a very difficult task for me I think. My mind never stops racing. It’s always trying to figure out the outcomes. And I think for me, it’s a protective mechanism, of sorts. At least my mind has convinced the rest of me that it is. It made me think of something from my marriage. My now-ex would run me down. He’d laugh about my physical, mental “flaws”, or whatever, which hurt terribly. So I began to beat him to the punch. I’d verbalize and make fun of myself “before” he could because it hurt slightly less if I “acknowledged” my less-than-perfect self first. I think that’s why I rush to figure out outcomes before they (never) happen so I’m not surprised and hurt. Does that make sense? Now to figure out HOW to turn it off because I’m really tired and I need to rest my mind. I have been trying to give things to God to handle but lately I am overwhelmed with many trials and situations. Thanks for sharing this. ♥️

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    1. Hii Andi! I am so touched by everything that you just shared. I tried to put the link to a YouTube video with Michael Singer – that honestly was music to my ears and answered the very questions you are seeking answers to.
      If this link does not work – YouTube Michael Singer “enjoy the journey”
      This helped for certain.
      Also feel free to email me at

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  2. In the West we tend to be far more driven by specific outcomes (money, power status, etc.) than suggested by Buddhists, for example. If you intend to continue on this path, Danielle, you might consult their guidance.

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  3. “…the freedom of the day to unfold as it would…” – Amen sister!

    In those times I find myself beginning to ‘over-plan’ and fearful “I’m really not okay”, I remember and surrender to His assuring Proverbs 16:9 promise . . .

    “A man’s heart plans his ways, but the Lord directs his steps.”

    Be blessed Danielle

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  4. Yes. The very premise of our recovery’s serenity prayer, …thy will be done, not mine.” It was our misuse of will that was our problem all along. We use our wills to exert and practise the rest of the recovery’s recommended steps. To bring it into alignment with the HP. The feels. Be well.

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  5. Thank you, Danielle. I just watched the video. I’ve never heard anything like this. I’m going to try my best to do it. I’m also going to share the video with a couple of other people. Thank you very much! I will hang onto your email address. I certainly don’t want to bother you outside of the blog. But I will hang onto it.
    Thank you for caring! ♥️

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    1. You would never be a bother Andi – we seem to have very similar struggles and triumphs ❤️it’s always nice to connect with you and I just love your honesty and realness. You are welcome to email or blog here anytime my friend🙏❤️

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