Tell someone They Matter 12/24

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Look them in the eyes and tell them they matter to you.

Lately, I have been going through some spiritual growing pains if you want to call them that on this life journey.

This is not to blame anyone. This is to own where I am and have been in my life.

I have discovered that there has been a deep rooted feeling of unworthiness in my being. I adopted this belief when I was a child.

As a child I felt unimportant, unprotected, unloved and like I did not matter. I felt feelings of never being good enough. I carried this ALL the way through my life.

Until now.

Last night I pulled my own son aside and I told him he mattered. I told him that if I have ever made him feel unloved, rejected or unimportant it simply was not true. I told him we are forever connected by the love in our hearts and THAT IS the truth.

He was receptive and grateful. He shared with me some thoughts that run through his mind about feeling unworthy.

If you can…please tell someone they matter. Even though it doesn’t cure whatever ailment they might wrestle with….tell them anyways.

It connects us. It lifts the spirit. It makes life just a little bit sweeter.

Published by gracefuladdict

I am a true addict living my life one day at a time in recovery. I have been substance free -meaning NO drugs or alcohol since 5/23/10. My intention is to share my experiences daily in the hopes to free others from the fears of being who they truly are. My wish is to bravely tell my truth so others can tell theirs as well. I want to be free of self hatred and doubt. I want to live a life of joy, kindness, love and grace. Thank you!

26 thoughts on “Tell someone They Matter 12/24”

  1. Oh, such a cool beautiful reminder, dear. I feel the burden you might have truly borne feeling unworthy in such a small world. Quite painful. Don’t let people’s words and actions snatch away your peace and self esteem. Beginning with you, my trusted author, I say to you “You matter, and you matter more.” Much love and peace to you this festive season. 💖💖💖

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      1. i m not clean yet and probably will not be. my son and i do not get along. but he s my blood, and i will not be the agent of his demise. good then keep in touch, keep writing and Merry Christmas Danielle. much love.

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      3. it is a pleasure. and it is necessary to know we are not alone. no matter what. i will drink coke and rum and whiskey and coffee. but you bring a smile to my face and i wonder where is that woman?

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      4. Merry Christmas Utuhan, and you can be clean, just as we all can be. Find your heart, it is in there under all that pain of ‘life’. It is meant to be hidden so that when you do finally see that all that you have gone through has much purpose, a very beautiful thing will happen. You will finally love you…and remove all that negativity we place on ourselves because we think we are unloved, think there is something wrong with us…all because of how we were treated as children by those we love and look up to. That is the journey. Dare to look, painful though it is, for under it all is something wonderful. Have a great Christmas my friend, let it give the joy that it wants…for you too ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋 🎅🏽 🦌 🕊 🎄 🎁 ⛄️

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  8. “As a child I felt unimportant, unprotected, unloved and like I did not matter. I felt feelings of never being good enough. I carried this ALL the way through my life.” My parents were useless violent alcoholics, I felt like this but got lucky. I moved in with my grandma before I turned seven and had happy times ever since.

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  9. A beautiful thought to share. I think most of us feel some unworthiness at times in our lives. It is an undercurrent that rises and falls like a tide. Spiritual connection is the best remedy, reminding us that we are all worthy by merit of being here. God doesn’t make mistakes! ❤

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  10. As of this moment I am working while reading your lovely post. Since my childhood, I have carried that feeling of being unloved, unworthy, and unimportant. And it really affects my way of living everyday, however, what I can be proud of myself is that even though this feeling burdens me as I do my work daily, I am able to express to my friends and family members that they really do matter to me and that’s a relief, as if a great weight lifted 🙂 thanks for sharing this

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