Rejection Prevention Class 2/5

The other day I saw something that hurt my heart tremendously. I brought George the big brother (6yrs old) with me to pick up Clay the younger brother (4yrs old) at preschool. When Clay came out to the car and saw George he was elated and he went running to George with his arms wide open ready to hug him. George pushed Clay away.

It was rejection and it was very painful for me to see.

I am learning about the concept of rejection and how much of my life I have been on guard trying NOT to experience it.

I have avoided relationships due to the fear of rejection. I have run away from people who were drawing to close. It has prevented me from doing certain things for the fear that I would fail and then I would reject myself.

As an addict I go to great lengths just to avoid pain. I have some serious walls built up as protection against the rejection.

However I have learned that it is NEVER about the other. It is NEVER about the others reaction to me. It is always about ME and my reaction and feeling regarding the situation and my loving or non loving opinion of myself.

Maybe they can start teaching a class in grade school where the teacher explains to Susie after Johnny pulls her hair and runs away… “It’s not about you Susie. Johnny just doesn’t feel well on the inside.”

Or maybe rejection is part of gods plan for us to experience so we can touch that inner place of unconditional love and know. Know that no matter what happens we are loved beyond measure by the thing that created us.

Published by gracefuladdict

I am a true addict living my life one day at a time in recovery. I have been substance free -meaning NO drugs or alcohol since 5/23/10. My intention is to share my experiences daily in the hopes to free others from the fears of being who they truly are. My wish is to bravely tell my truth so others can tell theirs as well. I want to be free of self hatred and doubt. I want to live a life of joy, kindness, love and grace. Thank you!

18 thoughts on “Rejection Prevention Class 2/5

  1. It is a very beautiful, ugly, thoughtful, careless, happy, sad, eventful, fatiguing, perfect, sloppy…masterpiece. And like all creations they have to start somewhere, sometimes not even seemingly anything but a scribble. But this piece of art will touch them all so in the end it will take your breath away, set your heart free, and bless you with something beyond words. On the day you look back and see the truth of its creation, a love will blossom from within that work, opening something that has ever been closed, and in its light you will see something wonderful…you, the real you, the one you have now finished creating and gladly set free ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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    1. I like what you said about the spoiled children and if they got everything they wanted then how would they learn compassion. Feeling those feelings 100% can teach us compassion. I know once I have been through something (even a physical injury) I am wayyyy more understanding and compassionate to others with the same plight.🙏💜🙏

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      1. Exactly dear lady, we can only appreciate one by experiencing the other side too. It is the builder of that inner love. As time goes by and we feel we have been dragged from one end to the other an appreciation is formed each time something balances it…in being shown that there can be a beauty in those moments within it of calm, peace and love, and we are no longer painting ourselves with that one colored brush but a very large palette indeed ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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  2. It is the hardest to experience pain and negative emotions through young innocent children just navigating the world indeed. We can only hope to be there to help them process these challenging moments.

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    1. I agree with you on this one to a certain extent. The popularity contest and those that buy into that are a bit lost. Standing in my truth means kindness and understanding which is when I am connected to my source and I can be nothing else. 🙏💜🙏


  3. It took me a long time to realize this. I was bullied in school, and after reading plenty of psychology I came to the realization, it was the bullies who were hurting–it wasn’t about me at all. Then all my shame instantly disappeared.


    1. It is definitely a freeing discovery as it was for me when I realized my own fears actually promoted the feelings of rejection❤️I try to put myself in the others shoes and see if I have ever behaved in an unkind manner and then realize I have and it was because I was hurt or fearful….not because the other person did anything at all.
      It’s all about the freedom after all ❤️🙏💜


  4. Sounds like a teachable moment. I am curious if you said anything to the boys? We are social animals and tribe is everything to us. How I wish I had an elder that helped me see the truth of rejection and above all, not to do it to myself!


    1. I did not say anything in the moment because they are both so sensitive it would have embarrassed George and magnified the rejection moment for Clay.
      However – I am often talking to Clay about his older brother and the unkind behaviors that happen. They teach each other really – it’s super interesting for me to see. I have completely fallen in love with both of them!!❤️💜❤️

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