WE heal 3/1

Physical healings seem a bit more basic – the mind can be involved – but the body instinctively knows what to do if you let it.

Emotional healing for me is a whole different ball game. When my “feelings” get hurt my instinct is to run away from it. No need to stick around for more.

However, I have learned in recovery that healing my mind and heart is just as important as healing the physical.

I am currently in the process of writing what is called a 4th step. I have done it before but each time it is new as I am continuously new.

I sit and I write about the things that I have hurt still lingering around in my heart and mind.

I wrote yesterday about my dad. Even with my dad I have run away and shut the door. I leave it open just a crack…

The beautiful thing about this process is I am asked to write my part in the hurt or resentment. And then I get to become aware of my patterns.

My pattern : “I shoot first and ask questions later or maybe not at all.”

My self centered behavior does not want to know why someone might have behaved in a certain way that hurt me. My self centeredness will assume and think the worst.

Bottom line – my dad – has reasons beyond reasons that I may never know, understand or figure out as to why our relationship is not what I would want.

Thing is though…I have never really asked him either.

Published by gracefuladdict

I am a true addict living my life one day at a time in recovery. I have been substance free -meaning NO drugs or alcohol since 5/23/10. My intention is to share my experiences daily in the hopes to free others from the fears of being who they truly are. My wish is to bravely tell my truth so others can tell theirs as well. I want to be free of self hatred and doubt. I want to live a life of joy, kindness, love and grace. Thank you!

27 thoughts on “WE heal 3/1

  1. And the most amazing thing that I found with my dad is…it wasn’t even about me, but how he was brought up with his own fears from how he felt he was treated and unintentionally brought me up using them…and taught me the same thing. Not totally, but enough that I could see those many comments from family members always saying…your just like your father. We can’t help but be like those we love and look up to. And because they haven’t resolved those fears when we are born, they can do no other but pass them on, just as we do to our children.

    But remember…it is in going through our fears that teaches us conditional love (those conditions we ever place on our love), so that in going through them we will finally understand unconditional love. We must experience one to understand the other. Like only truly appreciating happiness in experiencing sadness to. Even the ego has a great part to play, it tests all those many emotions to guide us home.

    A beautiful post dear lady, and the biggest part of it is…you are daring your heart to go there. Take a bow, that in itself takes great courage 😀❤️🙏🏽

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    1. Thank you Mark -this is what the work that I do in recovery provides. The knowledge that other peoples issues are not about me…my dad has his own stuff..that did effect me yes…but it wasn’t about me – just like your dad❤️
      And yes it brings me back to the love that is unconditional- are understanding where I have been has given birth to where I am ❤️🙏❤️

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  2. I recently started internally looking away from all of the things I remember my parents doing that hurt me and started looking at the things I did that hurt my parents. It doesn’t make what they did feel less painful, but it helped me see the humanness in them because I could see my own.

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